The Problem Is Not The Problem [in Marriage]

Posted by on Jun 11, 2015 in Marriage | No Comments

Marital advice is readily available on the internet, in magazines, TV talk shows or from your friends and family. However, much of this advice is influenced by beliefs and experiences of the adviser (many times secrets or myths) and has little to do with the reality of the specific couple’s difficulties. I don’t intend to […]

The Problem with Cleaning the Kitchen

Posted by on Jun 9, 2015 in Marriage | No Comments

The problem with cleaning the kitchen is that I find a toy that belongs in Eva’s bedroom so I stop and take it there. While I’m in her room I find a bath towel on the floor so I take it to the laundry room. I try to start a load of laundry but the […]

Trauma Therapy

Posted by on Jun 9, 2015 in Coping | No Comments

Going into the counseling field, I never imagined the passion I would come to have for adult trauma survivors. I jumped in headfirst during my internships during graduate school and have had created opportunities over the years to continue working with clients who have experienced trauma ever since. I continue to be amazed by my […]

You’re Stepping on My Toes

Posted by on Jun 9, 2015 in Marriage | No Comments

My wife has tender toes. I’m not speaking figuratively. They literally are. She’s had botched pedicures, ingrown toenails and even an unfortunate incident involving our daughter’s baseball cleat. Simply put, she’s got sensitive little piggies. And sometimes I step on them. I don’t mean to do it. But some evenings when we’re working in the […]

Walking Through Grief

Posted by on Jun 2, 2015 in Coping | No Comments

Feeling heard and understood during challenging times in life is like a positive bug zapper. We are drawn to those who “get us” in the realest, most genuine ways. At times in life, those people who “get us” may not feel equipped for what we’re going through or perhaps those people may just be few […]