There once was a little boy who had a bad temper.  His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
  
     The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.  Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. 

     Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
 

     The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, ‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.  It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”  A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Posted by on Apr 3, 2008 in Anger | 5 Comments

5 Comments

  1. Ruth
    March 17, 2009

    The best example I can think of is that of an injured animal. The animal has two choices to either give in to pain or lick its wounds in order to get better, knowing there is medicine in the act. Sure it hurts to lick them, but the animal knows there will come a day when it heals and will be all the wiser as a healer from it.

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  2. CLE
    March 17, 2009

    This is beautiful!! Sounds like you have experienced this in your own life. Can you give an example?

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  3. Ruth
    March 17, 2009

    The healing path is diffrent for every one. It is your basic relationship with life, and how you see it. God. Others. and most importantly yourself in relationship to them. Every one must find there own style of healing, circumstance, by circumstance. Just like the currents of a river, you must deal with every movement as it happens, in your own way.

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  4. CLE
    March 17, 2009

    I also agree with Ruth’s commit. However, could she explain to me what the healing path is?
    thanks

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  5. Ruth
    March 17, 2009

    This Story is so true. When a word is said it is like a knife, we can never take a stab back. But when we are stabbed it is an individual’s choice to lay down an die, or chose to heal from the inside out. We always must be careful with our words, we all will make mistakes. But we must always choose the healing path, because every one WILL suffer wounds.

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